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It's"look into the partner's eyes."

One simple reason, though, is that I enjoy looking into a masochist's frightened, crying, excited eyes! Looking in the eyes is the basis of communication, and I feel that there is a lot of information in the eyes. I feel that there are moments when I can communicate what I really want to say, or what feelings you want to convey even if you can't say it out loud, through your eyes. Is it my ego? lol

Well, but my elementary school teacher told me to look people in the eye when talking to them! During the session, I look into your eyes with a feeling of, "Courage to come and jump into the world I rule, and go crazy in peace."

Sometimes I want to be intentionally mean to you because it's so cute to see the masochist cry out for me to stay.

Come on, stare at me. Let's go crazy together! ing

One is to expand the range of motion.

As long as we keep doing the same thing over and over again or set limits for ourself, we will not be able to expand our range of motion in SM play. I feel that by applying even one small load, we can expand what we can do, and discover, realize, and enjoy what we can do.

By expanding the range of motion, we can then increase the depth. I don't want to play it safe and play it smart. By taking action with a mutual determination to "go one step further today," we can have an enjoyable session that with various possibilities.

The second is to "make everything into my flesh and blood." It is to incorporate what I gain during the session into your own experience and knowledge. A designer I admire once said, "Sense begins with knowledge.

The word "sense" tends to be used in the sense of innate sensitivity or intuition, but I define sense as "the gift of accumulation and refinement" as mentioned above.

I would like to cultivate my SM sense as a domina by cherishing the things I feel and notice during sessions, making use of them, repeating trial-and-error, and making them my flesh and blood.

It's about "valuing my intuition" and "living properly."

Before thinking about sessions, I would like to consider what the difference is between sessions and working with people on a daily basis. In conclusion, I believe that there is basically a continuum of ground.

Of course, as a responsible abuser, I have to be careful about safety and other aspects of my work. Even though we expose to each other what we do not show to others in our daily life, if a friend wants to say something, we ask, "What's wrong? We share our joy when something good happens, and enjoy sharing the time over a meal or on a walk.I feel that such communication is not different from the communication in a session at the core.

I don't mean that I treat every person like a friend, but that my abuse circuit is a part of my relationship with people, not an independent one, even though it is unconsciously manipulated. (I also say that I just can't turn it on and off.) Working, having tea with friends, and having sessions are all connected to one another.

"What is the most important thing in your life?"

In other words, "in the session" is synonymous with the question "in life" for me. What a difficult question! If you can answer quickly, you must be a job hunter or an intelligent person who takes time for self reflection on a daily basis. And my answers are the first two at the moment.

This is because intuition does not suddenly appear out of thin air, but rather it is the realization that the accumulation of one's life up to that point has unconsciously taken shape within oneself. Deliberation is hesitation, and intuition is awareness. Only by living properly can we accumulate certainty and improve the accuracy of our intuition. I have challenged my present life with everything I have done in my life, and I intend to challenge the session in the same way.

But if you actually meet me, I may appear to be a total feckless fool. It is very possible. I look forward to hearing your comments and suggestions.

The most important thing I focus on or emphasize in my sessions. 

I try to maintain an air of "it doesn't matter what happens just now." I think adults have stoppers that are triggered unconsciously and cannot expose themselves so easily. They unconsciously tell small lies to hide or mend themselves. 

SM is a particularly sensitive story. I think that when it comes down to it, we are afraid or can't expose ourselves so easily. Moreover, in front of you is a "domina" whose true identity is unknown. 

Is it okay if it's time like that, if it's just now, if it's just now? Can I talk, scream, expose, and trash the place? ...I want to value the atmosphere where we can feel like that, where we can feel safe with each other. 

You and I are the only ones here. It's only for this time that we're okay. That is how I feel. You and I may be living in a mimicry in society.

I hope that this is a time when we can remove our stoppers without worrying about each other. I look forward to the day when I can break the stopper of you, who may be a hard worker or shy person by day.

I don't want to miss even the slightest thing that the sub does or says during the session. I was told by a masochist once that "Mio san, you watch people very carefully," and I kind of realized that I am actually watching.

Well, at the time, he meant that I'm good at catching people tripping. LOL I don't overlook even the smallest misstep, so be prepared!

We're both human beings, and there are some things that are just too much for us, even if we are trying to enjoy ourselves to the fullest, It's also fun to toy with that specific dislike slowly and gradually, but if they stop enjoying themselves, it's going to be lonely.

I'm going to play it just right, and when we leave the room at the end of the night, I'm going to be like, "Ah! That was fun!" I want to open the door with that feeling.

I hope to have a good time with you!

Two things are particularly important. The first is to reassure them, and the second is to slowly eat away at them.

To be honest, everything from entering the room and saying good-bye is important. Because I feel that the time we spend together is not enough for them to accept me.

What kind of image do you have of "Domina"? Scary, strict, painful...?

In short, it's about catching them off guard. When I start something new, I tend to overthink things in a complicated way.

What's the most important thing in SM? The ability to observe? Having fun? Adjustments?

No, they are all equally important. Oh my, it's quite difficult to pay attention to everything when all I wanted to do was have some serious fun with some shenanigans!

However, I realized that if I keep in mind to "surprise" the person in front of me, I will be able to take action without being conscious of it. It won't work if you're too defensive when I make a surprise move.

First, I need to observe you properly and put you at ease. During this time, I secretly plan my strategy and plan the best time to execute it. It's always fun to hit a careless person with a surprise, shake their emotions, and laugh at their stupid face when their brain freezes.

And moderation is very important. If I break it into pieces, I will never be able to play with the toy again.

Focusing on the person in front of me, total concentration. First of all, I want to put all my effort into observing you and getting to know you deeply. It's difficult to build a good relationship with someone just by meeting them once.

A momentary encounter is wonderful, but if I can get to know you little by little over a long period of time, I think we can become wonderful partners who can enhance each other's pleasure.

BDSM is not something that can be done alone. If you don't watch your partner's pace and play only on the surface, we will not have a good time. I would like to work together with you to create a play that will satisfy both of us mentally and spiritually.

"Eye contact." I always look them in the eye in a session. I don't do this to humiliate them, but it's lucky for masochists who gets the kick out of it. The reason why I am so concerned about eye contact is that there are many masochists who isn't good at talking about what they want me to do or what they don't. I'll write about the episode that led me to feel this way in my blog.

Even if a masochist can't communicate well in words, there are many things I can read from the eyes. For example, if I sense even a hint of "dislike" in the eyes of slaves who is not good at talking, I ask their eyes if letting them endure it will be effective or, if I should change the approach. It may be a blessing if the dislike turns into love, but there is a great possibility that touching the dislike may cause trauma. I am cautious in my judgment, since you are dedicating your precious body and soul to me. I observe your eyes carefully before I make a decision.

So far, I've been talking about what I read in the eyes of masochists, but I know masochists sense something in my eyes as well. Most of the masochists I have met have looked down and turned away when I stared at them, and tried to escape back into their shells. When that happens, I put my hand on their neck and make them look at me. "Look me in the eye." I whispered. My gaze can be a tool to terrify the masochist.

After all, I like to look deep into the eyes of a masochist who is being driven to the brink by pain. Because the face of a frightened masochist is so cute.

First of all, I need to make it clear to each other what we like/don't like before I can be fully euphoric.

Then I name the slave for full immersion. You'll be glad I did! And so that we can grow together more from where we are, I try to keep my observation antenna up. I also keep things interesting so that we don't repeat the same thing over and over again (partly because I'm easily to be bored). If I don't enjoy myself, we won't be satisfied with each other, and we won't feel a sense of accomplishment afterwards.

Lastly, an important thing. I think I need to study human anatomy, so I'm starting to learn it. Since I enjoy hard plays , I think this is the path I should take. I should always make an effort to become a domina you will be willing to dedicate your mind and body. I will do my best!

"Love" is what's importat in my sessions. I toy with love, and I trash with love. I want to make it a loving time with various emotions: laughing, crying, screaming, and joy. This is a time with you, not anyone else. Also, please stay healthy if you want to have fun with BDSM. I don't want you to break before I break you.

Balance is the the most important thing I focus on and emphasize in my sessions.

Strictness and mercy, craving and pleasure, politeness and cutting loose, you and me... there are many things but not all 50:50 when it comes to balance.

The amount is up to me. There may be clashes, but we will find and build our balance.

The most important thing in my sessions.

It is to wait for the slave's response. I'm impatient. Even when I'm in a conversation, I anticipated the answer and have already prepared. And while I am thinking of the next answer, the conversation becomes nothing but an imaginary creature. Wait, what are we talking about after all? It's a waste of time, like putting the cart before the horse. It's important to think about everything in a logical way, but it's boring if I am stuck with it.

Therefore, I wait for your reaction because I want to see the scenery that I can only see when I get off the rail and off the track. I don't predict anything at all, and I look at you emptying my mind so I would feel genuine disappointment, urge to scold and surprisese. I recognize your body once it has been threw into my daydreaming playground where it have been alone for so long. I am happy to know that the predictions are completely useless.

What I focus most on during the session is to look at all of you in front of me.

Looking inside your heart and listening to the words that you can't speak. Some are with complicated feelings. I want to see your thoughts and your world. I want to share it all with you. And I want to dye you in my hue gradually. I'm feeling that way. I also place great importance on creating a space where our thoughts go in the same direction. Time flies when you're happy, excited, and immersed. Like time and space are distorted. It is a fulfilling space.

I want to face each other and connect deeply. Let's aim for heights together.

How are you enjoying the Relay Column? It's Sakurako, I've been looking forward to my turn! The theme is 'the most emphasis or importance I place in sessions.' I think there are many important points for us to have a good session as we meet only as S and M. One of the most important thing for me is 'balance between satisfaction and dissatisfaction'. Of course it's not good to have so much dissatisfaction, but don't be too satisfied.

I think a little bit of bargaining will be a spice when we come to each other, hiding nothing. The feeling of control when you grasp all of your wishes, and toy with your feelings at my will. Your gasping when you are given the supreme pleasure as a reward for your hard work, and your most pitiful expression when your expectations are betrayed. I'm sure it's the same for you and me to do BDSM for such a consuming moment. My ideal BDSM should have a 7: 3 balance. Of course, it may change depending on the slave, my mood and the situation. What is your ideal balance? It might be fun to try and find out through various plays with me, right?

"The thing that I put the most effort". What is it? Why did I become like this in the first place?

I was planning to do everything I could here, and then leave. Is it because I can't do "not seeing anything", "not listening to anything" or "not feeling anything" forever when I'm here? Or is it because now I'm utterly afraid to return to the darkness in which you kept giving up on people? It's gonna be a long story, going back to my roots. Oh, how many characters does this column have? Let's summarize the conclusion briefly.

1) How much "I-want-to-do-this" which is generated by the partner can I do? 2) "How much can I enjoy with the partner" as I continue to raise the issues? These are the two important points in my sessions. HERE YOU GO!

I, domina Narumi will deliver it. It's a little different from putting a lot of effort into it, but what I value most in sessions is to enjoy the playing.

I love BDSM so I don't need to try to enjoy it, but I always have fun from the bottom of my heart. I'm so greedy that I want to have more fun. I mean, I know you slaves get more excited when you see my eyes shining and my cheeks blushing in excitement. It is only in the depth of my heart that I have to express and taste all your feelings in order to be so exalted.

I like the way you enjoy melting with my sweet tricks. But I also like the way you look so cute when you are tormented so hard that your face is distorted and the eyes are watery. I cannot be satisfied unless you show me everything about you. So I will enjoy using all of you. I always have a session thinking like that. Narumi

This column is interesting because I can see the ideas of each dominas. I enjoyed reading the columns.

My "focus or the important thing in my session" is to create a moment when I can touch the slave's core. Pain, pleasure, fear, whatever I may use, I am happy when the slave stops acting, his/her shell comes off, and looks straight back at me. It's a shame to be involved only on the surface. I think BDSM is a very effective way to remove the shell. I also have a desire to touch the core and then engrave me there.

I want to make my place right in the center of the core, and continue to control it.

The most important point in my session is that I would like to build a long-lasting relationship.

Above all, I think that BDSM would be more enjoyable if we can build a lasting relationship. The more sessions we have, the more I can understand the slave, the more I can blame you, heal you, and I can torture him more deeply. By doing so, you can release yourself and your mind, let go of your body and ego. I would use every possible means to torment you, to make a fuss, and to give you my heart's content. I think that because of the continuous rule, slaves can gradually enter into the extraordinary and fall deeply. Even when you are not in a session, I am glad if you could keep mistress Shinju in your "memory" for years. Through a lasting relationship, a slave's mind and body could keep the joy of being dominated. Because it is BDSM, it is femdom. I want to appreciate our fate.

During the session, I also value the, "sensation", and "feeling" with the slave, who is confronting me at the time. A slave who I meet for the first time, and a slave who I have known for a long time, will have different mental condition and physical condition every day. I want to sharpen my five and six senses and play with you. I want to play with you in my hand, like Shaka's palm. My wholehearted control to you. Shinju

I came to La Siora to share the joy of BDSM with as many people as possible, but I often learn more from the members who already know the joy.

The interesting thing about BDSM is that you never know what is going to happen, and while I'm trying to get to the core of them, I can be unintentionally shaken in a good way, or made to bare my instincts. 

Since it's a world created by two of us, I try to create not a farce, but an emotional exchange between living people in a session.

I also have a secret wish that people will be able to experience a deep session where they can enter their own inner spiritual world. As a guide, I would like to be there to watch over you with strict but gentle eyes.