Skills and Favorite play , Column etc

I try not to force myself to be SM-like. In my case, if I am too conscious of "making it look like SM,"

I tend to end up acting empty... I think that being honest with myself is the best way to keep the sadism inside me in a state where it can be easily activated.

If I am half-hearted, my relationship with the you will also be half-hearted.I would like to see your distorted face and hear your suffering voice.

When do you let out your breath and when do you frown?Because we have come all this way...because we have met.

I don't want to force you to do something painful.Forcing you is not the only thing I want.

Why are you trying so hard in front of me? Why? I would love to know.

It's about not pretending.

My smile, anger, and sadness during the session are all genuine. If it is a fake smile as a fake smile, it is good. Because it is staged.

But a fake smile claiming to be a genuine smile, what is the point of this? What is the value of living on money earned by saying I like something I don't like, or saying something is interesting when it is not?

If I had a family to protect, it might be a different story, but fortunately I do not. So I only allow the real thing.

"I want you to tell me you like it, even if it's a lie." In the unlikely event that someone says something like that to me, I will punish them with the most horrible punishment imaginable.

My SM will be like that.

What I focus on and emphasize the most in sessions.

It is observation, trial, and goal setting. When you go on a trip somewhere, you do a lot of preparation. I change my belongings and my mindset depending on the place and the season.

If you actually go and experience a trip and your memories are full of good things, that's great, but if you have a bad experience, you plan a strategy to do better next time, and you reflect on your experiences and self-discipline.

Or you try to find something you have never seen or experienced before. I think the same thing can be said for sessions.

What we actually experienced and what we didn't understand. Repeated observations and trials to get to where we wish to be, when we want to know more or when it is different from what we had envisioned. And what you want to do with me and where you want to go.

If you set the same goals as I do, you can do your best, right?

I thought about how to describe it in terms of various words, such as "compassion," etc.

At the base, there is"motherhood," to which I would add "sensuality," as if in conflict. Mother. A self that cannot be surpassed, without which I could not even exist.

I can only think that it was love, and for that reason, I try to repeat and relive the first memory that is deeply engraved in me.

You can re-live it, you can overwrite it. Milk containing morphine. A chain to weave life. If you do something wrong, I will scold you. But at the core, there is unconditional love.

I am thinking of the ideal love that even I myself would desire.

It's"look into the partner's eyes."

One simple reason, though, is that I enjoy looking into a masochist's frightened, crying, excited eyes! Looking in the eyes is the basis of communication, and I feel that there is a lot of information in the eyes. I feel that there are moments when I can communicate what I really want to say, or what feelings you want to convey even if you can't say it out loud, through your eyes. Is it my ego? lol

Well, but my elementary school teacher told me to look people in the eye when talking to them! During the session, I look into your eyes with a feeling of, "Courage to come and jump into the world I rule, and go crazy in peace."

Sometimes I want to be intentionally mean to you because it's so cute to see the masochist cry out for me to stay.

Come on, stare at me. Let's go crazy together! ing

One is to expand the range of motion.

As long as we keep doing the same thing over and over again or set limits for ourself, we will not be able to expand our range of motion in SM play. I feel that by applying even one small load, we can expand what we can do, and discover, realize, and enjoy what we can do.

By expanding the range of motion, we can then increase the depth. I don't want to play it safe and play it smart. By taking action with a mutual determination to "go one step further today," we can have an enjoyable session that with various possibilities.

The second is to "make everything into my flesh and blood." It is to incorporate what I gain during the session into your own experience and knowledge. A designer I admire once said, "Sense begins with knowledge.

The word "sense" tends to be used in the sense of innate sensitivity or intuition, but I define sense as "the gift of accumulation and refinement" as mentioned above.

I would like to cultivate my SM sense as a domina by cherishing the things I feel and notice during sessions, making use of them, repeating trial-and-error, and making them my flesh and blood.

The most important thing I focus on or emphasize in my sessions. 

I try to maintain an air of "it doesn't matter what happens just now." I think adults have stoppers that are triggered unconsciously and cannot expose themselves so easily. They unconsciously tell small lies to hide or mend themselves. 

SM is a particularly sensitive story. I think that when it comes down to it, we are afraid or can't expose ourselves so easily. Moreover, in front of you is a "domina" whose true identity is unknown. 

Is it okay if it's time like that, if it's just now, if it's just now? Can I talk, scream, expose, and trash the place? ...I want to value the atmosphere where we can feel like that, where we can feel safe with each other. 

You and I are the only ones here. It's only for this time that we're okay. That is how I feel. You and I may be living in a mimicry in society.

I hope that this is a time when we can remove our stoppers without worrying about each other. I look forward to the day when I can break the stopper of you, who may be a hard worker or shy person by day.

I don't want to miss even the slightest thing that the sub does or says during the session. I was told by a masochist once that "Mio san, you watch people very carefully," and I kind of realized that I am actually watching.

Well, at the time, he meant that I'm good at catching people tripping. LOL I don't overlook even the smallest misstep, so be prepared!

We're both human beings, and there are some things that are just too much for us, even if we are trying to enjoy ourselves to the fullest, It's also fun to toy with that specific dislike slowly and gradually, but if they stop enjoying themselves, it's going to be lonely.

I'm going to play it just right, and when we leave the room at the end of the night, I'm going to be like, "Ah! That was fun!" I want to open the door with that feeling.

I hope to have a good time with you!

In short, it's about catching them off guard. When I start something new, I tend to overthink things in a complicated way.

What's the most important thing in SM? The ability to observe? Having fun? Adjustments?

No, they are all equally important. Oh my, it's quite difficult to pay attention to everything when all I wanted to do was have some serious fun with some shenanigans!

However, I realized that if I keep in mind to "surprise" the person in front of me, I will be able to take action without being conscious of it. It won't work if you're too defensive when I make a surprise move.

First, I need to observe you properly and put you at ease. During this time, I secretly plan my strategy and plan the best time to execute it. It's always fun to hit a careless person with a surprise, shake their emotions, and laugh at their stupid face when their brain freezes.

And moderation is very important. If I break it into pieces, I will never be able to play with the toy again.

First of all, I need to make it clear to each other what we like/don't like before I can be fully euphoric.

Then I name the slave for full immersion. You'll be glad I did! And so that we can grow together more from where we are, I try to keep my observation antenna up. I also keep things interesting so that we don't repeat the same thing over and over again (partly because I'm easily to be bored). If I don't enjoy myself, we won't be satisfied with each other, and we won't feel a sense of accomplishment afterwards.

Lastly, an important thing. I think I need to study human anatomy, so I'm starting to learn it. Since I enjoy hard plays , I think this is the path I should take. I should always make an effort to become a domina you will be willing to dedicate your mind and body. I will do my best!

"Love" is what's importat in my sessions. I toy with love, and I trash with love. I want to make it a loving time with various emotions: laughing, crying, screaming, and joy. This is a time with you, not anyone else. Also, please stay healthy if you want to have fun with BDSM. I don't want you to break before I break you.

Balance is the the most important thing I focus on and emphasize in my sessions.

Strictness and mercy, craving and pleasure, politeness and cutting loose, you and me... there are many things but not all 50:50 when it comes to balance.

The amount is up to me. There may be clashes, but we will find and build our balance.

The most important thing in my sessions.

It is to wait for the slave's response. I'm impatient. Even when I'm in a conversation, I anticipated the answer and have already prepared. And while I am thinking of the next answer, the conversation becomes nothing but an imaginary creature. Wait, what are we talking about after all? It's a waste of time, like putting the cart before the horse. It's important to think about everything in a logical way, but it's boring if I am stuck with it.

Therefore, I wait for your reaction because I want to see the scenery that I can only see when I get off the rail and off the track. I don't predict anything at all, and I look at you emptying my mind so I would feel genuine disappointment, urge to scold and surprisese. I recognize your body once it has been threw into my daydreaming playground where it have been alone for so long. I am happy to know that the predictions are completely useless.

What I focus most on during the session is to look at all of you in front of me.

Looking inside your heart and listening to the words that you can't speak. Some are with complicated feelings. I want to see your thoughts and your world. I want to share it all with you. And I want to dye you in my hue gradually. I'm feeling that way. I also place great importance on creating a space where our thoughts go in the same direction. Time flies when you're happy, excited, and immersed. Like time and space are distorted. It is a fulfilling space.

I want to face each other and connect deeply. Let's aim for heights together.

How are you enjoying the Relay Column? It's Sakurako, I've been looking forward to my turn! The theme is 'the most emphasis or importance I place in sessions.' I think there are many important points for us to have a good session as we meet only as S and M. One of the most important thing for me is 'balance between satisfaction and dissatisfaction'. Of course it's not good to have so much dissatisfaction, but don't be too satisfied.

I think a little bit of bargaining will be a spice when we come to each other, hiding nothing. The feeling of control when you grasp all of your wishes, and toy with your feelings at my will. Your gasping when you are given the supreme pleasure as a reward for your hard work, and your most pitiful expression when your expectations are betrayed. I'm sure it's the same for you and me to do BDSM for such a consuming moment. My ideal BDSM should have a 7: 3 balance. Of course, it may change depending on the slave, my mood and the situation. What is your ideal balance? It might be fun to try and find out through various plays with me, right?

"The thing that I put the most effort". What is it? Why did I become like this in the first place?

I was planning to do everything I could here, and then leave. Is it because I can't do "not seeing anything", "not listening to anything" or "not feeling anything" forever when I'm here? Or is it because now I'm utterly afraid to return to the darkness in which you kept giving up on people? It's gonna be a long story, going back to my roots. Oh, how many characters does this column have? Let's summarize the conclusion briefly.

1) How much "I-want-to-do-this" which is generated by the partner can I do? 2) "How much can I enjoy with the partner" as I continue to raise the issues? These are the two important points in my sessions. HERE YOU GO!

I, domina Narumi will deliver it. It's a little different from putting a lot of effort into it, but what I value most in sessions is to enjoy the playing.

I love BDSM so I don't need to try to enjoy it, but I always have fun from the bottom of my heart. I'm so greedy that I want to have more fun. I mean, I know you slaves get more excited when you see my eyes shining and my cheeks blushing in excitement. It is only in the depth of my heart that I have to express and taste all your feelings in order to be so exalted.

I like the way you enjoy melting with my sweet tricks. But I also like the way you look so cute when you are tormented so hard that your face is distorted and the eyes are watery. I cannot be satisfied unless you show me everything about you. So I will enjoy using all of you. I always have a session thinking like that. Narumi

This column is interesting because I can see the ideas of each dominas. I enjoyed reading the columns.

My "focus or the important thing in my session" is to create a moment when I can touch the slave's core. Pain, pleasure, fear, whatever I may use, I am happy when the slave stops acting, his/her shell comes off, and looks straight back at me. It's a shame to be involved only on the surface. I think BDSM is a very effective way to remove the shell. I also have a desire to touch the core and then engrave me there.

I want to make my place right in the center of the core, and continue to control it.

The most important point in my session is that I would like to build a long-lasting relationship.

Above all, I think that BDSM would be more enjoyable if we can build a lasting relationship. The more sessions we have, the more I can understand the slave, the more I can blame you, heal you, and I can torture him more deeply. By doing so, you can release yourself and your mind, let go of your body and ego. I would use every possible means to torment you, to make a fuss, and to give you my heart's content. I think that because of the continuous rule, slaves can gradually enter into the extraordinary and fall deeply. Even when you are not in a session, I am glad if you could keep mistress Shinju in your "memory" for years. Through a lasting relationship, a slave's mind and body could keep the joy of being dominated. Because it is BDSM, it is femdom. I want to appreciate our fate.

During the session, I also value the, "sensation", and "feeling" with the slave, who is confronting me at the time. A slave who I meet for the first time, and a slave who I have known for a long time, will have different mental condition and physical condition every day. I want to sharpen my five and six senses and play with you. I want to play with you in my hand, like Shaka's palm. My wholehearted control to you. Shinju