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The name LA SIORA was derived from ...
February 1997. The interval between winter and spring, I was in "Venezia",City of Water.
February 1997. In the season between winter and spring,
I was in Venice, Italy. The city of water. In a hotel in Venice. It's winter, but I woke up sweaty. Two other people in my room, domina "R"and slave "Dog," were asleep. I told the dog to keep the window open, but he must have forgot. Darkness was in front of me when I opened the window. As my eyes got used to the darkness, I could somehow see the silhouette of a church, river, and reflections of the light, all in silence. It was 2 o'clock in the evening.
As I tried to sleep again, I heard a knock on the door. This late? I opened the door with a doubt in my head. No one was in there. After the same thing repeated several times, I decided to stay and guard at the door.The moment I heard the knock, I opened the door and came into the long corridor with red carpet. I did the same thing a couple of times. But still, no one was out there.
I was fully awake by then. There was no place the suspect can hide in the corridor. The dog started to growl in sweat. At the same time, R woke up.
"Hey R, did the dog wake you up? He's been annoying."
R was sitting on the bed, said nothing. She fell back asleep. All of a sudden, the air in the room became dark. There were voices coming out of the wall, and a couple, a man and a woman, emerged. The lady dressed in a princess-line dress, holding a fan in her hand. The man was in a jacket and hat, both are made with the same woven patterned fabric. They looked at each other, smiling, and walked out to the wall on the other side of the room. They were graceful, I did not feel any fear.
Once they are gone, the air became heavy. The next guest wore a white mask and a deep red cape. He/she looked like a picture from a postcard of a Carnaval. The person walked slowly, and gone to the wall on the other side. When he/she is gone, I heard a subtle sound. It became louder and louder, so I could hear it clearly.
"...shora...siora, La Siora"
I wrote down the word. The day breaks without a sleep.
I was visiting Venice to see my friend named "M." In the next morning, he picked us up to take us to show us around. I asked him if he knows the word "La Siora."
"La Siora? How come you know the word? Only few Italians know the word, it's not even on a dictionary."
I was surprised to know the word actually exists, and told M all about the previous night. According to him, many people experience mysterious things in Venice.
"Congratulations, Rie! That's wonderful! Venice gave you a guarantee that you are a true queen!"
"It's an old word in Venice, which was used to address a lady reverentially. In English, it's like "The Mistress."
I accepted the word with a gratefulness. I was on to a travel as I couldn't come up with a good name for a new club I was producing.
A gift from ancient Venice, and a timeless word. "La Siora."
~ La Siora ～
What do you focus or value most in your session?
Relay column by Dominas
Let's ask what domina (mistress) is focusing on and how important it is as we, dominas, develop relationships with you (slaves)?
Let's start a new playground "relay column". When you are reading interviews, there are usually about plays she likes and doesn't like, right? But I think the reason why people are attracted to each other is more than love and dislike of playing, but there are also cases where people are attracted to each other because they have different values or they don't understand each other.
Let's ask what domina (mistress) is focusing on and how important it is as we, dominas, develop relationships with you (slaves).
"What do you focus or value most in your session?"
I focus on facing the individual.This is how slaves are.
This is the fetish.Not just a one-size-fits-all expression or interpretation.What on earth is "You."?How would "You." react? And what kind of chemical reactions are produced if "You." and "me"?
I place importance on observing them.Human cells are reborn every day, and experience values change. Even today and tomorrow, "You." and "me" are different people. It's very fluid.Because of the chance, when the fluid 'individual' and 'individual' stay at the same point and confront each other through the language of BDSM.The emotions, reactions, changes, and chemical reactions that arise.
A moment that never happens again.It is important for me to face "You who are here now." with insight.
What is important in the session is the desire to be exposed to your spirit that you cannot show for many a reason in your daily work or life. The true appearance of self who wants to be exposed from the invisible pressures that is conventional social norms. I think it's my job to be an assistant to crush the shell of social norms for a moment to reveal the desired. And that is a relationship forge by the dominant side and the submissive side are intwined together and exposing each other gaining a balance.
humiliation, and pain, The feeling is full. What the stick controls and the carrot gives after I feel worshiped. The converse is also fulfilled after having enjoyed the pain and pleasure that I sought. The most important thing among them is that the feeling of me and the submissive match.
As BDSM is known as adult play. It is a matter of course that you grow up psychologically, mentally and physically from playing as a child through adulthood. Worship love from instinct such as individual fetish play, I can understand that feeling only because I have that biased fetish, and the BDSM world is a concealed realm world where you can feel the deepest desire and pleasure in the heart. I feel the deepest after the world that I have and the world of the other are fused and I can finally meet each other's desires in that world.
What I put the most emphasis on in the session. It's a balance between reason and instinct. In other words, I try not to think only in my head.On a daily basis, I use accurate and comprehensible structures, approximate precise expressions, consistent principles, politeness, and using widely accepted theories to form hypotheses ......They're not difficult for me, they're just a way to make the world a better place to live.
It seems to me that a sound theory is very useful for controlling you with my overwhelming force.Punishing you for your bad behavior. Giving you a reward for your delight. I am the mistress.Of course.On the other hand, SM is also a fantasy away from everyday life, so it shouldn't be all logical.Why is this a bad thing? Why is it fun? Why am I the mistress?When I start to think about it, there are so many things that I can't explain.Because in the first place, your masochistic tastes themselves have distorted ideas that are not logically explainable and go against your instincts.
That's why I sometimes turn a blind eye to the contradictions and accept the things I can't explain.
I take whatever weapon I want.You knelt silently and hold out your hands.Funny story.Accepting unreasonable demands a flexible mind that is not bound by common sense and a strong belief in intuition, and SM seems like a process of training them.Even with that thought, the feeling of slaves is strange and mysterious. I made me pick up classic books of psychology. I can't stop wondering why you're contradicting yourself.
The most important thing in my sessions.
It is to wait for the slave's response. I'm impatient. Even when I'm in a conversation, I anticipated the answer and have already prepared. And while I am thinking of the next answer, the conversation becomes nothing but an imaginary creature. Wait, what are we talking about after all? It's a waste of time, like putting the cart before the horse. It's important to think about everything in a logical way, but it's boring if I am stuck with it.
Therefore, I wait for your reaction because I want to see the scenery that I can only see when I get off the rail and off the track. I don't predict anything at all, and I look at you emptying my mind so I would feel genuine disappointment, urge to scold and surprisese. I recognize your body once it has been threw into my daydreaming playground where it have been alone for so long. I am happy to know that the predictions are completely useless.
Disclaimer: I'd like to tell you beforehand that this column was written very carefully so it would not be that offensive.Personally, I consider me and the sub's relationship the most crucial element when having a session. The possibilities are endless compared to the very few taboos we have in BDSM ? that is why I put relationship on top of the list.Firstly, from a business-like perspective, me and the sub's relationship within the club is clear. I am the the provider and you are the client. Clients usually tend to put a price on the provider no matter what the their occupation is.
But that is awfully wrong. The price is paid towards the service provided. Just because you are paying it doesn't mean a slave can impose unreasonable complaints or demands, and vice versa. A dominatrix shouldn't be exploiting her power to do whatever she desires. I have never been stuck in such situations, but they are problems worth keeping in all of our minds. The point is, it's important to respect each other, obey the club rules, and play safe while you have a lot of fun. I had the chance to read Domina Hinoka's blog entry and found some statements that I feel sympathy.
You know, like you subs out there determine if a dominatrix is good enough to trust yourselves to her, we do the same. We can either reject or have fun with you. If you are not here for much BDSM, just turn around and walk away.I'm going to wrap it up right here because I know that I will definitely digress and start ranting.Now, if you have understood my point so far, you will know what to do next.Throw yourself in to my bosom ? my big heart is vast and deep like the sea. Welcome the coming, speed the parting guest.I am always here with open arms. - Nikki
The important thing during a session is to keep the opposite feeling in our mind. Some people want to be abused for complete control, or they want to satisfy their desire for strong fetishism, or they want to make the world of fantasy a reality, and so on; there are a lot of forms of BDSM.
Let's say we do something horrible and dirty that I can't describe in words. I want the slave to be aware of the opposite world in order to feel the vice. It might be a good idea to play beautiful classical music, or to look down on you, dressed in elegant, tasteful things, as you wander about. If you want to be completely separated from the existence of man, I think you must first admit the existence of man in yourself. Having a piece of respect in order to look down on you. Acknowledging the existence of the opposite and falling into the opposite world. Because I know you want to be lured into the abyss of desire, don't you?
When I'm in a session, the most resonating thing is when my heart says, we're connected now. I want to know more about you, and I want to connect more deeply. I want to approach the core while exposing each other's kinks. To achieve it, I would like to continue our sessions while acknowledging each other's awareness as human beings, and the conflicting world.
It's my turn, read it carefully!What I put the most importance on my sessions is to create a space for sharing our time. Therefore, I don't overlook the slave's every move.
Emotions can be expressed not only from words, but also from fingertips. I'm watching you.
The only important thing is the inspiration. If we could cherish the new world view that comes from the inspiration every day, and share the time that makes us tremble, I would have nothing more to say. Stereotyped BDSM is not too bad, but I need to spice things up!
My favorite thing is to break the boring routine!
Renamed Ruina, it's Ena. I'm a pervert. There are 2 important points in my session: "not subject to ego" and "enjoyment of accidents".
If we are satisfied with each other's desire for pleasure, it is just a pervert game. This is a pervert's party by perverts, for perverts. If so, I think the charm of SM will be lost, right? Therefore, my ego as Domina should not be too one-sided, and you shouldn't be the only one that feels good. I don't want to end up with a harmonious schedule. In the midst of hunger and thirst, and in the midst of each other's bargaining, dominance be born I think?
In front of me, you sharpen your senses in the midst of "I don't know what will happen," and imagine "What's going to happen". Expectation, despair, pleasure, fear,... We want to share the "an unfelt feeling" that can be created under such circumstances.
... BUT ACTUALLY, I WISH I CAN FOLLOW MY INSTINCT AND BECAME A SLAVE OF MY DESIRE, AND BECAME A PERVERT AS IT IS! ... and to face that conflict is what I meant by "not subject to ego."
It's Yoko. It is now my turn.
The most important thing in my sessions is probably to be greedy. Of course it is for each other. I tend to watch you with my glistening eyes to see the facial expression I want to see, to get the reaction I want, and not to miss it. It will be more fun and pleasurable if you don't feel shy and let yourself go. Since sessions are extraordinary, not your every day activity, I think it is good to want more greedily. There are things you like, things you don't like, and things you can't do, so you are you.
If you can't confess your wishes and desires, I can expose them. Also, the most important thing for me is that you slaves to be healthy. Otherwise, I can't be mean to my heart's content. As for specific plays I put the most importance on, that would the things I enjoy. To defile or deprive of your dignity; such as vomiting play and lots of golden shower, but I will talk more about them on my blog.
How are you enjoying the Relay Column? It's Sakurako, I've been looking forward to my turn! The theme is 'the most emphasis or importance I place in sessions.' I think there are many important points for us to have a good session as we meet only as S and M. One of the most important thing for me is 'balance between satisfaction and dissatisfaction'. Of course it's not good to have so much dissatisfaction, but don't be too satisfied.
I think a little bit of bargaining will be a spice when we come to each other, hiding nothing. The feeling of control when you grasp all of your wishes, and toy with your feelings at my will. Your gasping when you are given the supreme pleasure as a reward for your hard work, and your most pitiful expression when your expectations are betrayed. I'm sure it's the same for you and me to do BDSM for such a consuming moment. My ideal BDSM should have a 7: 3 balance. Of course, it may change depending on the slave, my mood and the situation. What is your ideal balance? It might be fun to try and find out through various plays with me, right?
I, domina Narumi will deliver it. It's a little different from putting a lot of effort into it, but what I value most in sessions is to enjoy the playing.
I love BDSM so I don't need to try to enjoy it, but I always have fun from the bottom of my heart. I'm so greedy that I want to have more fun. I mean, I know you slaves get more excited when you see my eyes shining and my cheeks blushing in excitement. It is only in the depth of my heart that I have to express and taste all your feelings in order to be so exalted.
I like the way you enjoy melting with my sweet tricks. But I also like the way you look so cute when you are tormented so hard that your face is distorted and the eyes are watery. I cannot be satisfied unless you show me everything about you. So I will enjoy using all of you. I always have a session thinking like that. Narumi
What I focus most on during the session is to look at all of you in front of me.
Looking inside your heart and listening to the words that you can't speak. Some are with complicated feelings. I want to see your thoughts and your world. I want to share it all with you. And I want to dye you in my hue gradually. I'm feeling that way. I also place great importance on creating a space where our thoughts go in the same direction. Time flies when you're happy, excited, and immersed. Like time and space are distorted. It is a fulfilling space.
I want to face each other and connect deeply. Let's aim for heights together.
The most important point in my session is that I would like to build a long-lasting relationship.
Above all, I think that BDSM would be more enjoyable if we can build a lasting relationship. The more sessions we have, the more I can understand the slave, the more I can blame you, heal you, and I can torture him more deeply. By doing so, you can release yourself and your mind, let go of your body and ego. I would use every possible means to torment you, to make a fuss, and to give you my heart's content. I think that because of the continuous rule, slaves can gradually enter into the extraordinary and fall deeply. Even when you are not in a session, I am glad if you could keep mistress Shinju in your "memory" for years. Through a lasting relationship, a slave's mind and body could keep the joy of being dominated. Because it is BDSM, it is femdom. I want to appreciate our fate.
During the session, I also value the, "sensation", and "feeling" with the slave, who is confronting me at the time. A slave who I meet for the first time, and a slave who I have known for a long time, will have different mental condition and physical condition every day. I want to sharpen my five and six senses and play with you. I want to play with you in my hand, like Shaka's palm. My wholehearted control to you. - Shinju
"The thing that I put the most effort". What is it? Why did I become like this in the first place?
I was planning to do everything I could here, and then leave. Is it because I can't do "not seeing anything", "not listening to anything" or "not feeling anything" forever when I'm here? Or is it because now I'm utterly afraid to return to the darkness in which you kept giving up on people? It's gonna be a long story, going back to my roots. Oh, how many characters does this column have? Let's summarize the conclusion briefly.
1) How much "I-want-to-do-this" which is generated by the partner can I do? 2) "How much can I enjoy with the partner" as I continue to raise the issues?These are the two important points in my sessions. HERE YOU GO!
Hello, I'm Tamaki. It's my turn. The theme is 'focus or the important thing in my session.' The important thing in my session is communication and timing. What kind of person is he/she?
I want to start from such place. It's more fun to think "I want to do this with this person." instead of simple "I want to do this". I would like to take time to build a relationship rather than a quick pleasure. In such a natural atmosphere, slight timing creates tension instantly. I love that moment. At that moment, shows me very cute faces.(English:☆☆Intermediate)
This column is interesting because I can see the ideas of each dominas. I enjoyed reading the columns.
My "focus or the important thing in my session" is to create a moment when I can touch the slave's core. Pain, pleasure, fear, whatever I may use, I am happy when the slave stops acting, his/her shell comes off, and looks straight back at me. It's a shame to be involved only on the surface. I think BDSM is a very effective way to remove the shell. I also have a desire to touch the core and then engrave me there.
I want to make my place right in the center of the core, and continue to control it.(English:☆☆Intermediate)